Mallory Buxton, bsn, rn
Founder & CEO, Solos- Concierge Nurse Patient Advocates
1.) Goals. I write them down. Every day. What you write becomes reality. Your mind and brain start to think that what you're writing is already true and pretty soon it's not just goals on paper; it's real life. Your goals should be very specific and have an end date of when you want to achieve them. I have a monthly goal every month. It should be something that is realistic to achieve so that at the end of the month you feel a sense of accomplishment and it is a win for you when you check it off. This builds confidence and momentum. Once the train is moving, it's hard to stop it. A target is something that is more of a lofty goal, it may take you a year or more to achieve it. But, once again, if you write it down, it will become reality. Along with writing my goals ad targets I write a quote, something by Steve Jobs, Sheryl Sandberg, and Sara Blakely for example. Someone I look up to, that inspires me and pushes me to continue to face my fears. Steve Jobs is one of my absolute favorite people to learn from. Here is my all time favorite YouTube video: Steve Job's Top 10 Rules for Success. I also write 10 things I am grateful for. Waking up on the grateful side of the bed helps set the tone for your whole day.
2.) Meditate. "Meditation is not about achieving something. It's about how we change our relationship with the world around us," - Headspace app. Research is showing more and more how important mindfulness is. (This TED talk by Matthieu Ricard is one of my favorites: The Habits of Happiness ) I like to use the apps Calm and Headspace for my meditation. Sometimes it's 15 minutes, sometimes it's 3. Just the fact that you put it on your to do list and cross it off is a win. It's a muscle that you must build. Meditation is hard, but that's why they call it a practice. Never do we perfect it. As Warren Buffett, says. "If you can't control your emotions, you can't control your money." Start meditating and see how it spreads positivity and calm into every area of your life.
3.) Read. "Readers are leaders." I loved reading in elementary and high school. Then college hit and I felt guilty reading anything but a text book; I know a lot of nurses can relate to this. Truth is, I think Solos would be closer to our goal of ending loneliness and helping 1B people had I continued to read books that interested me in college and the immediate interim. I only just started making it a point to read every day within the last year again. And it's funny how my business, happiness and bank account have grown since doing this. I'm currently reading "Factfullness" by Hans Rosling and listening to "Measure What Matters" by John Doerr on Audible.
Bonus habit: Hot yoga. Not just yoga, hot yoga. Sweat out all the mental & physical toxins.
So, in conclusion: Did I write my goals? Did I meditate? And did I read? And yoga. These are my keys to success. They don’t all 3 happen every day but when they do I am a kinder, more considerate and reflective version of myself. I am proactive rather than reactive and am able to have more empathy and relate to others. And the earlier in the day I cross them off my list, the better.
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Mallory Buxton, BSN, RN
An entrepreneur & believer